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Dateline: Dallas/ Ft. Worth, September 2023

It's likely one of my podcasts brought you here - GrowGreat.com or LeaningTowardWisdom.com or HotSpringsVillageInsideOut.com.

Grow.Great-A.City.Government.Leadership.Podcast        Hot Springs Village Inside Out

My podcast topics of passion include leadership, personal development/improvement, peer advantage and wisdom. And of course, Hot Springs Village, Arkansas - my favorite place.

Since 1997 I've been a one-man media company "slash" executive "slash" leadership coach. I love to write, podcast and create content to help people. Leadership, high-performance cultures, highly effective groups/teams/organizations - that's the professional work. Mostly, it's about helping people "figure it out." Not because I've already figured it out, but because I'm a great listener armed with high curiosity and solid questions. The magic is in the process!


Everything is hard until it's easy.

It's my all-time favorite quote, one I've never been able to attribute to anybody...and I would rather love to acknowledge whoever said it because it's brilliant. Over the years I've added to it...

Everything is hard until it's easy. Everything is slow until it's fast.

You likely already know how fond I am of sarcasm, so it's no surprise that snarky quotes rank high with me.

Charles de Gaulle, once the President of the French Republic, said, "How can you be expected to govern a country that has 246 kinds of cheese?"

On why he consumes so much sugar, Warren Buffett said, "I checked the actuarial tables, and the lowest death rate is among six-year-olds. So I decided to eat like a six-year-old. It's the safest course I can take."

Sir Winston Churchill remarked, "All I want is compliance with my wishes after a reasonable discussion."

There is no such thing as paranoia. Your worst fears can come true at any moment. Hunter S. ThompsonNapoleon Bonaparte is attributed with this one: "Never interrupt your enemy when he is making a mistake."

Eb Dawson of Green Acres fame once said, "It's not a crime to lose all your money. It's just stupid."

Speaking of stupid. There's a quote attributed to Einstein that he never said or wrote. It's still clever, although I disagree with the first part of it.

“Everyone is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”

Leslie Knope of Parks & Rec uttered this bit of brilliance, "We've got a big problem with the library. The library is the worst group of people ever assembled in history. They're mean, conniving, rude, and extremely well-read which makes them very dangerous."

"Everything happens for a reason. Sometimes the reason is that you're stupid and you make bad decisions."

"Do not corner something that you know is meaner than you."  -an old farmer

"The death of a dream is the day that you stop believing in the work it takes to get there."  ― Chris Burkmenn

Here's another quote attributed to Einstein, but he never said it. “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” When you're a bonafide genius I guess people figure lots of clever sayings were born in your brain. I don't suffer such indignities. 😉

"A young man is a theory, an old man is a fact."    – E. W. Howe

"Most of the trouble in the world is caused by people wanting to be important."  -T.S. Eliot

"Don’t pick a fight with an old man. If he is too old to fight, he’ll just kill you."  -Anonymous

Elmore Leonard, the novelist, and author of Freaky Deaky crafted this line in that novel: "It doesn't have to make sense, it just has to sound like it does."

"All you need in this life is ignorance and confidence, and then success is sure."  -Mark Twain

"If you get to thinkin’ you’re a person of some influence, try orderin’ somebody else’s dog around."  -an old farmer

Sherlock Holmes has this bit of wisdom. "It is easy to be wise after the event." Long ago, I concluded that my definition of wisdom is getting it right in real-time. That's largely what Leaning Toward Wisdom seeks to do - provide us with some observations and insights that hopefully help us do that in our own lives. There's a fair amount of snark and chuckling along the way.

Spiritual Growth & Mental Health

Self-denial is hard—worth it, but hard.

Temperance (self-control) is hard. Meekness is hard.

There's extraordinary power in our willingness to discipline ourselves. To resist behaving foolishly. To resist satisfying our every selfish desire.

Somebody shared that picture with me. I've seen this idea before, but the illustration is good. True, too.

Some things are easy to surrender to, but the end results are hard. Very hard.

Selfishness is easy. Giving in to our every desire is easy. Bitterness is easy. Hatred, too.

But when these easy things become our way of life, then we find life is really, really hard. No surprise because God, who created us, told us in Proverbs 13:15, "...the way of the transgressor is hard." Sin fools us into thinking it's easy. Fun. Pleasurable. The path to happiness.

Romans 6:23 "For the wages of sin is death (that's eternal death), but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord."

Comparing our lives with one another doesn't matter when it comes to our spiritual lives. It likely doesn't matter much in any area of our life except in competition.

Everything is a competition. Well, almost everything.

But there's this one eternal area of life that isn't, our spiritual lives. An area where it has nothing to do with our status measured by where we stand relative to others. An area of life where your loss or gain has little or no bearing on your loss or gain, except for the power of influence. An area where humility, submission, kindness, meekness, gentleness, grace, and compassion are highly prized because these are godly qualities that Heaven praises. Proof that heavenly wisdom is vastly superior to manmade wisdom.

Spiritual health is overlooked more than physical or mental health. It's the challenge we face whenever we seek short-term joy or happiness over long-term benefits. According to the Gospel of Jesus Christ, it's the earthly over the spiritual, the temporal over the eternal.

Matthew 16:24 "Then said Jesus unto his disciples, If any man would come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me."

Ecclesiastes 12:13 "This is the end of the matter; all hath been heard: Fear God and keep his commandments; for this is the whole duty of man."

During good times reliance on God can slip. It's manifested in lax prayer habits and Bible reading.

During bad times - even desperate times - people are often driven to their knees crying out to God. Searching for answers to questions they didn't even know they had when they were more fully devoted only to themselves.

Around the first of April 2020, I began to record some sermons (audio only) and post them on YouTube in a playlist entitled, In Thy Paths. Just go up to the navigation and click that link, In Thy Paths.

Mental health - at least for me - can't be viewed separately from spiritual growth (and health). That's because we serve God first with our minds. Until a person makes up their mind they'll respond appropriately to the Gospel by putting God first, then serving God isn't possible. It's why the repeated admonition of the Lord was to "deny yourself." Self-denial is a decision followed by taking action. The power of a mind made up is manifested whenever we commit to spiritual growth.

Spiritual growth and mental health are congruent. Increasingly I'm aware of how my frame of mind impacts everything. I believe we're each responsible for our own lives. For guarding our hearts. I don't accept the notion that we're merely puppets subject to the impositions of others. No matter who is at fault, or who is to blame - we're responsible for what we think, what we believe, how we feel, and how we behave. Bad things happen to all of us - sometimes horrible things beyond our control - but we can decide how to best respond. Moving forward or cowering in the corner are options. It's up to us to decide.

Brevity Is Hard Work

“I have only made this letter longer because I have not had the time to make it shorter.”
— Blaise Pascal, mathematician, and physicist

“Not that the story need be long, but it will take a long while to make it short.”
— Henry David Thoreau, writer, and philosopher

“If you want me to give you a two-hour presentation, I am ready today.  If you want only a five-minute speech, it will take me two weeks to prepare.”
— Mark Twain, writer, speaker, and humorist

I'd like to report that I've grown enormously in this area, but I can't. 😉

I'm working on it.

I can report that I'm more highly motivated than ever before. It began some years ago in my preaching at church. I noticed sermons were growing increasingly longer and longer. I grew up hearing the adage, The mind can absorb no more than the seat can endure.” I guess some preachers think hour-long sermons are more effective than shorter ones. They're wrong! 

I noticed my own sermons creeping up in length. I also knew why. I wasn't putting in sufficient effort to make them briefer. As I'd listen to others, and watch sermons online, it was evident to me that very few preachers were putting in the effort. Laziness is a hard thing to manage.

Coming out of the Pandemic, assuming we have, I noticed even more sermon-length creep. They grew even longer. I suppose it's because as more gospel meetings were being conducted preachers were making up for lost time by gobbling as much time from congregations as possible. I noticed online sermons were almost always hovering around 50 minutes, likely at least 20 minutes too long!

I had been carving time off of my own sermons well before the Pandemic happened. Given my embrace of minimalism, it seemed fitting to purge some time off sermons, but until recently I didn't apply the same effort to other forms of communication.

Personal Communication, including face-to-face, Zoom, phone calls, texting, messaging (whatever platform)



They're all now under more serious scrutiny.

While I don't want to overthink it, I want to be more intentional, thoughtful, and purposeful.

Do you know the guy who loves to use 100 words when 10 will do? Yeah, me, too. I've never wanted to be THAT GUY. Instead, I'd like to be the guy who finds a way to use 6 instead of 10.

Don't judge my effort by this page. 😀

High Utility / Low Maintenance Living

I started purging possessions in July 2022, determined to rid myself of at least 80% of everything I owned. Turns out I underestimated my commitment and ability to get rid of things. I think I've likely eliminated over 90% of my personal possessions (think clothes, books, etc.). It's among the most liberating things I've ever done.

When I began the process I decided how I'd determine what I'd keep. I'd ask a few questions:

1. Do I use this regularly?

2. If I don't, when was the last time I used it? (if I hadn't touched it in a year or more and it didn't provide some other value, out it went)

3. Is it sentimental, a keep-sake? If so, do I want to hang onto it?

That got the process moving forward. Right away I started asking about the utility of things. Were they high utility?

That question erupted as I was looking at things like furniture, then it moved into just about everything. My spaces contained some fixtures and furniture that were not of high utility. They were really just taking up space and providing hiding places for clutter. I determined that if something wasn't high utility, then I'd part with it. By the end of the first week of my purging, high-utility living became my mantra driving almost all my choices.

I'm entering a new phase, the encore chapter, where I'm growing increasingly pickier about the things that occupy space in my life.

The Encore Chapter: Cash Flowing Life

"Figuring it out," is the catchphrase for my work. I coach professional folks, helping them figure it out for themselves because everybody's life is different. There may be some framework truths to consider, like budget considerations, but we have to make our own choices based on what matters most to us.

All of us facing our encore chapter - those of us who are now old - are thinking of the present and the future. I don't suppose many of us are getting too far ahead of ourselves, but you hear older couples talk about not wanting stairs, for instance. Stairs aren't currently a problem for us but fast forward 10 or 15 years and we wonder, "Will they be?" Such considerations impact our decisions. When you're in your 30s or 40s you're not thinking of such things.

Right now, Rhonda and I are in our final days of purge mode. We're ridding ourselves of things so we can then figure out what we most would like to acquire. Part of purging is getting rid of things - which includes selling things, giving things away, and donating things. Part of purging is simultaneously acquiring resources (for example, turning unused or necessary furniture into cash).

We know where we plan to live our encore chapter. It'll involve splitting time between two places. We're not certain what that'll look like, but every day we're working to make it more clear. This much is sure - we're going to cash flow life. People incorrectly think cash-flowing life could include sustaining debt, as long as you can make the minimum monthly payments. That's not how we define cash-flowing life.

Cash-flowing life is simply figuring out monthly income and monthly expenses while making sure the expenses do not exceed the income. A real novel idea, huh?

We're proponents of debt-free living. It's liberating, just like purging and leaning toward practical minimalism. The current words that ideally depict what we're pursuing are: modest, practical, sustainable (and I don't mean green, but I mean predictably repeatable), realistic, and probable. Another phrase I use regularly is "high utility," meaning very useful. I'd encourage you to put specific words to what you're most pursuing right now, knowing they're subject to change. We're old, so these words illustrate our station in life at the moment. The words of my 30s and 40s would have been different. 😉

The considerations remain in priority order as they always have: God, family (firstly, me and Rhonda, then the rest of our tribe), finances, then us (what we most want for ourselves as an old married couple). So we keep working, planning, and praying. Stay tuned.

Partners For Life: Racing Beyond Our 45th Anniversary

Rhonda and Randy as teens

We had just turned 18 when we went on our first date (together). 😉 It was July 2, 1975. From that moment on, we were and remain a couple. Lifelong partners. On January 2, 1978, we got married. Rhonda Lynn Childers became Mrs. Cantrell and it remains one of my most cherished decisions trumped only by becoming a Christian when I was baptized into Christ (July 1968).

Today we're grandparents, something those kids sitting at that park picnic table (pictured to the left) could have never imagined. Five grandkids. Five adults, including the two of us. That's our tribe. That's our blessing. The most important people to us.

Genesis 1:27-28 "So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. And God blessed them. And God said to them, 'Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth.' "

Genesis 2:24 "Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh."

Ephesians 5:25-33 "Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way, husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, ..."

For at least the past twenty years I've had one recurring fear that haunts me...losing her. I don't live in daily mortification, but I confess it crosses my mind often. Daily. She means that much to me and makes my life so much more than it would have otherwise been. I can't - and won't - imagine life without her. I stare down my fears of losing her in the daily attempts to cherish her, something I don't do as well as I should.

Randy & Rhonda as an old couple
Randy & Rhonda today, as an old couple

Strength. Resilience. Determination. Resolve. Resourcefulness. Enterprising. Productive. Entrepreneurial. Caring. Committed.

The adjectives to describe her come easily. The difficulty is stopping, for fear of gushing on too much. And embarrassing her.

Proverbs 31:10 "An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels."

I found an excellent wife, the love of my life. And I was beyond fortunate to find her when I was young, and hang onto her for dear life!

On January 2, 2023, we celebrated 45 years of marriage. It was quiet and understated - which is how we roll. There are lots of miles behind us and we're praying for many more ahead of us. Daily we face the reality that making the most of our time together is the priority, even though we don't often enough behave like it. We go about our business likely taking for granted moments - it's the practical life that overrides things for all of us.

It's urgent that we don't squander our opportunities. That's why many times each night I find myself reaching over simply to touch her, making sure she's still there. And mostly, making sure I'm not just dreaming that the girl I fell in love with many years ago is still my best friend, partner, and love of my life. It's also why I'm increasingly focused on being a better man!

That whole passing it on thing - legacy - is in full swing because now we have grandkids. We're devoted to having as big an impact on them as they'll allow. Right now, they're pretty compliant to let us be part of their lives. That's liable to change as they grow older so we're working hard to be important to them right now!

Closing In On Another Major Milestone

In a few months Rhonda and I will hit a major milestone known as FRA in the Social Security system. For my foreign friends, that's our government-based retirement system based on all the years we contributed to the system during our working years. FRA is full retirement age, the age at which people qualify for the maximum amount available. It's based on a person's birth year. For us, FRA is 66-1/2 years old. There is a small, but important caveat to the maximum amount. A person could wait until the age of 70 and completely max it out. So, as with all retirement planning - the key is to accurately guess when you're going to die! 😉

Hitting this milestone won't impact my work, but it will impact Rhonda's. She's retiring from full-time work so she can focus on doing what she loves, sewing. Her creativity is vast and mostly channeled in her sewing activities. Neither of us are much for sitting around doing nothing. We're both busy - I'd argue sometimes we're too busy. I don't suspect that'll change dramatically. Hopefully, it'll make us both a bit more discriminating though where we say "no" to some things we might not otherwise refuse.

My work will be unaffected. Coaching and serving people will remain a high priority for me because time is short and the need is great. I remain highly motivated and inspired to help others compress the learning curve so they can more quickly (and effectively) figure it out.

Lakes, Big Trees & Wilderness

Within minutes of closing - Monday, March 6, 2023
Randy & Rhonda, March 2023

We're closing in on something else, too - splitting time between urban/city living and wilderness/park-like living. It's going to result in two simultaneous versions of The Yellow Studio. Version 3.1 will be the city/urban Texas version. Version 4.0 will be the wilderness version.

People clamor for life/work balance. That's not the balance that's been missing in our life. We're doing something about it - after planning it for a few years. It's a balance thing, but it's not an either or thing. It's not even an "and" thing. For us, it's more of an addition. More of a filling a void thing. It's nature. It's tall trees. It's forests. Wildlife. Water. Mountains. It's being able to exhale.

Back in the Spring we closed on a place in our "happy place." Within an hour we took this quick selfie whilst staring into a glaring sun. I enjoy squinting!

When I Die

Death is important. But first, there's life.

More than a dozen years ago I created a DropBox folder shared with my wife called, "When I Die." In that folder is a working document of what I want to happen when I die. The details aren't important here, but they're important for my wife and family. While I'm alive they matter to me, but I realize when the realities of that document happen, I won't know or care. I'll be somewhere else far, far away.

Death is too important to ignore. Specifically, our own death is important. I know my death will be a reflection of my life though so my daily choices matter. How I treat others, how I behave myself (or fail to), how I influence others, how I serve others - these are the things that matter. Mostly, how I glorify God will matter because He's who I'll face when this life is over. So admittedly, I think about my death. It'd be foolish not to.

Check out some of my sermons at In Thy Paths. Better yet check out some sermons by a much more talented preacher, Kevin Presley (a gospel preacher currently based in Dothan, Alabama) at Let The Bible Speak TV. But first, permit me to introduce you to a lifelong mentor who died on February 20, 2019. He was a gospel preacher who I had known all my life. He served me during some of my best and most challenging moments. His name was Barney Owens. On April 4, 2010, he preached this sermon entitled, "And he died."

That about sums it up. What about you? What are you up to? I'd like to know. Contact me here.


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